One-on-one coaching built on the frameworks from The Quack — attachment science in plain English, applied to your actual life. No lectures, no homework, no shame. Feelings aren't facts — they're data.
Launching soon — Season 1 is on the way. Weekly, 20–30 minutes, free forever, where every framework on this page was born. Eight Season 1 episodes, the Men's Brotherhood mini-series, and concepts you won't hear anywhere else.
One-on-one relationship, attachment, and self-empowerment coaching — same frameworks, applied to your actual life. "The confusion isn't a sign something is wrong with you. It's a sign you're playing a game nobody designed."
We talk about what's going on. You ask anything. No sales pressure — genuinely. If coaching isn't the right fit, I'll say so and point you somewhere better.
First sessions map your attachment pattern, your situation, and what you actually want — not what you think you're supposed to want.
Ongoing sessions build the skills: regulation, communication, compatibility judgment, boundaries. Rates discussed in your free chat.
Every tool here translates peer-reviewed research into something you can actually use the next time your chest tightens at 2am. Born on the podcast, applied in coaching.
Compatibility isn't a vibe — it's three measurable things. What someone values, what relationship skills they actually have, and how much capacity their life leaves for you. Love can't fill a capacity gap.
Being held just tightly enough to stay — without commitment, clarity, or a promise ever being made. Names the pattern of "I don't know yet" that keeps you wrapped. Recognition is the first exit.
"Right person, wrong timing" feels true — and it's a trap that keeps your attachment system running on a future that doesn't exist. For the dumped and the dumper alike.
Emotions are signals moving through your body — real, useful, and not in charge. Learn to read the data without taking orders from it. Regulate → Intend → Repair.
The invisible rulebook you've been following without ever choosing it — in relationships, identity, and self-worth. You can't win a game you didn't agree to play. You can stop playing.
Loneliness changes how your brain reads the room, then uses that to keep you lonely. A four-step self-fulfilling prophecy — and the science of finding your exit buddy.
I'm a relationship, attachment, and self-empowerment coach, and the host of The Quack. I'm a side questing main — and I spend my other time helping people get free of the patterns that kept them small.
I'm not coaching from a mountaintop. I've lived the anxious spiral, the breakup that rewires your brain, the relationship where you were someone's everything and still not their person. I built these frameworks because I needed them first.
Warm, direct, and occasionally wrong out loud — I'm learning alongside you, with the research in hand. Certified in QPR suicide-prevention gatekeeper training and Mental Health First Aid, working within a clear ethics framework: no diagnosis, no clinical claims, real referrals when something needs more than coaching.
Built to be used without coaching. No email wall games — they exist to help.
A day-by-day structure for going no-contact cleanly — without the 2am check-in relapse.
On the wayWhy your ex feels "sticky" in your brain, and the science-based routine for unsticking.
On the wayScore a relationship on Values, Skills, and Capacity — before your attachment system votes for you.
On the wayThe pocket version of the flagship framework. Print it, save it, send it to the group chat.
On the wayTell me a little about what's going on and how to reach you. I'll reply personally to set up a time. That's the whole process.
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